BLACK WOMEN DESERVE TO GET MARRIED

But You Better Learn How to Cook...
By Alduan Tartt, PhD

Black women deserve to marry. Black women desire to marry. Black women date frequently to find a husband. So, why are so many beautifully talented and available sisters still single? I took it upon myself to ask that very question while conducting research for my new book, The Ring Formula: How to Marry MR. RIGHT (available everywhere and http://www.drtartt.com/). What I discovered, quite frankly, was not what I expected.

I assumed that many women would list that they were too busy, disconnected from eligible Black bachelors, or the supply of MR. RIGHTS was too low. However, I discovered something that blew my mind but later made a lot of sense: A lot of Black women have never been taught how to court and date men towards marriage. In fact, many laughed when the idea was posed and indicated that they thought it was the man’s sole responsibility to do all the courting. When I posed the following question they changed their mind: “What’s in it for the man to stop dating multiple women Why you and only you.” At that point it became clear that my sisters needed some insight on exactly what makes men contemplate marriage.

In this article, I’ll cover the first point….

# 1- LEARN HOW TO COOK

Cooking to nourish your man is step number one in developing your own Ring Formula towards marriage. Most healthy men have a very positive relationship with their mothers. This relationship was born and cultivated based on mom’s ability to feed, care, and love her son. As a result, sons are fiercely loyal to mom and will do anything she asks for as long as they live. Mom will always hold the position of “first lady” in every man’s heart.

Well, if mom is the first lady then the wife needs to be the “last lady” and follow suit with nourishing her man. For clarity, cooking is not about being your man’s maid or personal cook. It’s about taking the primary roll in nourishing his mind, body, ego and soul better than any other woman can. When you pick out the freshest, plumpest, and all-natural fruits and vegetables and then season, simmer, and stir with your man in mind; you are in rare air! After all, where is a man going to find that type of loving outside of his mom’s or grandmother’s house? Cook with love and your man will begin to compare you to the first lady herself. Once you get mentioned in the company of royalty you are well on your way to marriage.

Try this…Wake up early and prepare your man a healthy power breakfast or dinner before his big meeting. Stroke his ego and let him know that you are his number one cheerleader regardless of outcome. If he gets the promotion, cook a great meal and celebrate. If he fails to get the promotion, cook an even bigger meal and tell him, “You are still my King, everything happens in time.” Trust me ladies, any man who doesn’t appreciate that is a FOOL and not worth your love! The good brothers who desire to settle down, however, will give you high marks and start to pare down their list of female associates. Too much celebrating at this point would be premature because you’ll still need some additional formulas to secure that ring. However, it’s OK for you to peruse your favorite wedding magazine and practice throwing that rice while you’re preparing his next meal.

Tune in next week for Step 2 of The Ring Formula: How to Marry MR. RIGHT…Get the Gorillas Out Of Your Closet (How insecurities make your man insecure about you).

Advanced copies of the Ring Formula can be secured at http://www.drtartt.com/.